Can you remember any time when you were so disappointed in yourself, thinking: “What’s wrong with me?”
And then you frown, going deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole “I’m making too many mistakes; I just don’t get it right. I often fight with others, I never stop complaining, and I hate myself for what happened that day, so long ago, when it was all my fault. I let myself down too often, so how can I trust myself to ever do the right thing? Come to think of it, I actually don’t even like myself. Loser…”
This is the typical train of thought of most people who treat self-love merely as a reward for one ultimate day — when they finally become the person they want to be. This behavior implies that their self-love is based on, or subject to, them being objectively “good” or “successful.”
Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
And this scripture example from the Christian Bible shows, Jesus is not commanding self-love but assuming it: “Love your neighbor as you (already do) love yourself,” which means Jesus assumes that every human being by nature loves himself.
Self-love is confident warm, and caring.
It’s the complete acceptance of who and what you are. It’s the appreciation and affirmation of yourself.
It’s the unconditional support, self-care, and compassion you give yourself that ultimately translate to good health, great self-esteem, happiness, total balance, and well-being.
Self-love is thus a basic necessity, a fundamental positive value that leads to inner peace and happiness.