The month of love’ has come to an end. I thought I would finish it off on that note. I am curious, did you feel the love? Was it any different from January? (Apart from financial differences). Let me know!
The excitement that stems from a new relationship can make you feel on top of the world. As the newness wears off, the relationship can feel like it’s growing stale. You aren’t doomed to remain in a dull and boring relationship.
Here are some of the tips I think could help you keep that fire (whatever this means) in your romantic relationship. There are some steps you can take to keep a mature relationship fresh and exciting.
Before you become lovers, cultivate friendship. This way, it is easier to express yourself. Friendship with your soul mate creates a firm bond and as they say, a strong foundation results in a strong building, in this case relationship.
Verbalize Your Loving Feelings
Don’t forget to use your words to express your feelings. Sometimes people forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel.
Acknowledge it won’t be a smooth ride
Ups and downs are definitely part of relationships. Understanding and accepting this fact does a great deal because you are able to come up with ways of dealing with fluctuations when they kick in. With this, both of you are able to grow in your relationship when you correct and learn from each other. William Shakespeare said expectation is the root of all heartache. Don’t expect that it’s going to be all perfect.
Schedule And Go Out For Date Nights
You have heard it before — and you’ll keep hearing it, without evenings that force you out of the home and out of your comfort zone, that loving’ feeling will be few and far between. That is why there is importance of scheduling and maintaining a date night. “Make it a point to keep the romance and passion alive and not taken for granted where it is forgotten and becomes a routine. Planning and keeping date nights and being intimate on a weekly basis is very important as a way to reconnect on more emotional and sexual levels,” she says. “Just make sure you are fully present during these experiences, i.e. no looking at cell phones, computers, TV, etc.
Don’t just tell, show!
‘I love you’ may be very easy to say but it does a great deal if you show your spouse you love them. It is possible to say something you don’t necessarily mean, therefore, go the extra mile. Look up the five love languages, which one does your lover love most? Do that.